While reading another blog that I love, I came across a theme that really resonates with me. It’s called “Rules that don’t exist.” I love this idea firstly because I have always been a bit weird. I often enjoy things that friends or family dislike or aren’t interested in. It could be liking music someone else hates, or my love reading – I can’t get enough of it. Some friends hope that particular disease isn’t contagious
That’s why living by your own rules is so important. Another great blogger, Gretchen Rubin, talks about how what’s fun for other people may not be fun for you – and vice versa. This is so important to recognize. You can’t live your life by other people’s rules.
If you love foreign films, or playing video games, or doing sudoku, go right ahead and have fun! If you love knitting, making homemade Christmas cards or fantasy football – go for it! Do what YOU love. Remember love is a matter of the heart. Just like no one can make you love a particular person, no one can make you love a particular thing either.
If you’re anything like me, you live the old adage “Joys shared are doubled, sorrows shared are halved.” For me, it’s completely true. Sometimes I feel my joy is diminished because the people around me don’t share my enthusiasm and interest.
It is an enormous relief to realize that while none of my friends like playing with toys – I love it! I like movies that my husband hates. It’s like a milkshake – some love strawberry or vanilla, but I love chocolate. Living life by your own rules means enjoying your particular flavor of life.
That’s one of the beautiful things about the Internet. There you can find comrades who enjoy EXACTLY the same things as you. Even if you have to go to one site for Harry Potter fans, and another one for horror movie fans. (Both of which I like.)
I was reading an article with a point of view I disagreed with today, and it made me feel guilty. (I thought the article had a point.) But then I realized, that even though I agree with some of the information, I didn’t agree with the main point. And that’s TOTALLY OK. My whole perspective shifted once I realized it’s okay to disagree.
So whatever rules you use to live your life, make them ones that work for you. Look at the things that you think you should believe – that doing things for others is good for you, that you can’t stay out late on a work night, or that rollercoasters are fun. Maybe so, but maybe that’s not true for you. Create a life that makes sense for you, not someone else, even someone you admire. Go live life by YOUR RULES!