When most people talk about fear they talk about major fears like being afraid of heights, fear of snakes, or even agoraphobia; being afraid to go outside. Instead I want to talk about those small fears; the ones you think are no big deal that keep you from doing what you want.
It may be that you are afraid to call your mother because she constantly criticizes and your fear another lecture. Maybe you won’t join a movie club because you don’t like crowds and aren’t good at small talk. Perhaps you don’t go to the state fair with your family because loud noises startle you and make you uncomfortable. Whatever it is, this fear is holding you back from doing something you want to do.
One way to deal with fear is to slowly work your way up to facing your fear. If you don’t like loud noises you could buy some Halloween scary music, rock music or other loud tunes. Play them in the background while you clean or exercise and slowly turn it up as you get used to it. If crowds aren’t your thing, start slowly; try a busy local library or bookstore where there are lots of people, but little noise and no pushing and shoving.
The idea is simply to expose yourself to uncomfortable situations until they no longer bother you. For additional resources there are excellent books in the library, or you could always hire a therapist to assist you. A simple willingness to work on your fears, and admit them to yourself will help you get started.
Another idea is to do something that is exciting and new that you’ve never tried before. Ride a new roller-coaster at the amusement park. Go white-water rafting or hot air ballooning. Visit a zoo and pet a tarantula or snake. Use something that makes you uneasy but not too fearful. Doing something new will help you prove to yourself that you’re capable of more than you think, and enable you to tackle your bigger fears.