Perfect Love by tinyfroglet
What is Loving Kindness Compassion?
Loving Kindness is a brilliant and beautiful idea I first discovered in Buddhism. It is the development of love and empathy for every person on the planet. Yes – even the bad guys. It is the belief that we are all united by one common principal; that we all want to end suffering and find happiness.
Why is compassion useful? When you practice compassion, you actively look for the beauty, generosity and goodness in people. It expands your awareness, helping you to notice it more often, and reminding you of the wonder of love.
Compassion helps us to see the world as loving and kind. As the Dalai Lama states on his web site, mental suffering is the more abundant concern, thus creating the need for training of the mind:
“For a start, it is possible to divide every kind of happiness and suffering into two main categories: mental and physical. Of the two, it is the mind that exerts the greatest influence on most of us. Unless we are either gravely ill or deprived of basic necessities, our physical condition plays a secondary role in life. If the body is content, we virtually ignore it. The mind, however, registers every event, no matter how small. Hence we should devote our most serious efforts to bringing about mental peace.”
Loving kindness meditation and prayer can remove our mind from fear and calm our chaotic thoughts. This leads to peace and a feeling of security. To read more on the Dalai Lama’s view on compassion click here.
How do I begin to practice loving kindness? The easiest way to begin is by giving thanks for all the people you are grateful for in your personal life. Your parents, children, spouse, friends and other family members who give you love and support. As you start to acknowledge these gifts, others will begin coming to light. You recognize the generosity, forgiveness, love, and understanding you received from them.
If you have ever been moved to tears by your own overpowering love for another person, you will find that same experience when you accept the gift of another’s love for you.
How can I love people that do bad things? One way I have found that helps me love the bad guys, is to understand that they are teachers. By way of their sometimes extreme examples, we are reminded over and over of what not to do.
Of course, I’m the first to admit this is a tall order. The good news is that we have our entire lifetimes to learn. I have achieved moments of total happiness and joy when imagining the countless valuable contributions of each person, from the local farmer who grows our food, to the truck driver who delivers it, the store that sells it and so on. I then progress upwards giving thanks for all the inventors, scientists, researchers and doctors that work to improve my life, health and overall well being. Complete strangers trying to make my world and theirs a better place.
Here is another quote from the Dalai Lama to consider:
“For a person who cherishes compassion and love, the practice of tolerance is essential, and for that, an enemy is indispensable. So we should feel grateful to our enemies, for it is they who can best help us develop a tranquil mind.”
What else is compassion good for? Compassion for others helps us to more easily forgive others and live with a feeling of peace. It also shows us how many things there are to be grateful for in this beautiful world; spectacular mountain ranges and emerald blue oceans, a huge diversity of animal and plant life, sensational sculptures and paintings that touch your heart. The taste and texture of salty, sweet, or spicy foods, the melodious sounds of music across the world, even the perfection of a single flower. There is so much good in the world if only we will begin to look for it.
Where can I find more information? There is so much more information available about this concept. Your local library is a good place to start. Books on Buddhist religion will offer various insights into loving kindness, as well as a variety of articles and information on the Internet. Here are a few places to start: